I normally don't write posts on Saturdays.However,the topic, which made me break my
Saturday silence is actually a TV serial all the Pakistani viewers are aware of...KITNI
GIRHEIN BAQI HAIN.(still many knots to untie).
I occasionally watch this show.It plays a new story in every episode so suits mommy
perfectly(no follow ups etc).
kitni Girhen Baqi Hain...zara si bat |
This week the episode i watched really disappointed me.Are we really so morally
degraded that such stories are now appearing in our tv shows.
The story is about a religious Muslim man(although Muslim and religious should be
synonymous), who gets married and starts his life with a girl who is NORMAL,
according to the writer's standard of normal Pakistani girl.She doesn't cover her head,
doesn't shy away from interacting with na-mehrums(man not related to her by blood)
even smiles at them in restaurant and enjoys going out etc.
The couple is happy together but the real conflict arises when a relative of the
husband...arrives at their place.The guest turns out to be related to the wife as
well.He is good looking boy of her age and they talk to each other very frankly.She
even shakes hands with him when they meet(don't know where the writer or director
saw this in our middle class),goes into his room alone,does his packing etc.The
husband eyes her frank interaction with the guest suspiciously(naturally).
The guest taking pics of only the wife |
Then one day he brings a burqa for her and asks her to wear it.She objects strongly
but then complies (her being the 'eastern wife'...a point she didn't remember at all until
that day).
Well,the story then shows the difficulties her burqa poses for her...like lack of
freedom to eat easily in public...poor victimized girl.
The guest arrives again.Husband voices his suspicion,when alone with his wife and
bammm.She accuses him of being suspiciuse,judjing her wrongly and what not.She
asks the guest to come with her and they leave the house.
The story ends at the scene where husband meets the guest in a park.He greets him
politely.The guest introduces his daughter and says he got married.The husband
congratulates him.Then, he has a flashback of his married life.
He calls the guest's wife(who is clad in a burqa..surprise,surprise) by the name of her
wife ,thinking that she married the guest.But, the guest's wife turns out to be another
lady shabana .
The boy, then, clears his "Baseless" suspicions,saying that he was judgmental of his
wife and never realized how humble and compromising his wife was(ahem it was
hard for even the viewers to realize).
In the end the molvi sahib is left to regret his hasty decision.
The end made me greatly uneasy.I mean the husband was not a religiuse extremist.He
just wanted his wife to stay in her limits.In every culture,eastern or western, problems
arises when spouses, while interacting with opposite gender, go out of the limits set
by their society.If the story had belonged to a western TV show I would have called the
husband narrow minded. But it was a drama about a Muslim couple.If a Muslim
husband wanted his wife to cover her head,or be modest in her interactions with male
relative,he was not wrong at all.He was not hard on her, neither dominating,quite the
opposite.
I am so disappointed today and upset too.I don't want my children to think along these
lines,not at all.
So,what do you think about it.Do share.
Here are the links to the show:
part1
part2
part3
I understand your point but the idea of marrying a 'religious' Muslim to a not-so-religious Muslim is wrong at first. I hope you are getting my point.
ReplyDeleteAnd to be honest, I never ever tune into ANY Indian or Pakistani channels when my son is around. Way too much drama and 'khichri' for our kids to understand.
Yah I also accidently saw that and such disgracing topic with a drama series on which promos girls are even tying knots of there bare back..its humiliating but what else can you accept from angeline...this was a really foolish play they coudnt handle the subject so it went stray by confusing the viewers...
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